How to Succeed in High Stress Situations | The Tim Ferriss Show (Podcast)

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world-class performers and long-form interviews whether they come from the world of military entertainment sports investing business or otherwise this episode is going to be a special intervention / helping hand as much for me as anyone else from the outside looking in the last two to four weeks have been disaster after disaster for me I had a very unexpected and sad death in the family several large business deals that were in process for six plus months fell apart at the last minute and the list just goes on and on and on I may in fact have to sue someone for breach of contract which I’m always loathe to do and it’s been high stress it has been high stress and the question then is how does one respond when faced with the unpredictable one of the tools is a book there are several books that I’ve thought about over and over again during this period one of them is the obstacle is the way by ryan holiday find them on Twitter at Ryan holiday it has helped me to look at problems differently turn them upside down become the calm within the storm and even uncover unique opportunities believe it or not so in many ways I’ve come to see these problems that have assaulted me these situations that have surprised me as blessings in disguise in some cases the obstacle is the way as I mentioned by Ryan holiday is a collection of stories and principles about stoicism which is not a cow standing in the rain that’s not what you want to become it is what I consider to be the ultimate personal operating system let’s say for anyone who wants to thrive in high stress environments and situations if you want to be anti fragile like Thomas Jefferson say Marcus Aurelius Bill Belichick and many of the most dominant investors in history stoicism offers a real playbook and is in fact part of the playbook or play books of everyone I just mentioned if you want to make better decisions if you want to smile when other people cower it offers very very pragmatic approaches and it’s not panacea you are most certainly going to feel certain types of emotions that maybe you prefer not to you the question is how do you then react how do you then respond to quote Andy Grove former CEO of Intel quote bad companies are destroyed by crisis good companies survive them great companies are improved by them so what if you could be a person who is improved by crisis at the very least I suspect it would give you opportunities no one else can see let alone grasp much more important in my mind at this point it would make you a happier and much more at peace human being and the content of the four sample chapters that are going to comprise this episode are very closely related to my last TED talk about an exercise called fear setting which I do I would say these days every week put more typically every month it is the most important and valuable exercise that I do and you can hear about that and also see a text version of it at Tim blog forward slash Ted and this book the obstacles the way is part of the Tim Ferriss book club which is in hibernation but there are still about ten of the books that you can see audible.com forward slash Tim’s books the top is a little bit stoicism heavy so you can scroll down to see other books about travel and rituals and routines of successful people and so on so if that is of interest you can check it out audible.com forward slash Tim’s books but in the meantime I hope that this is an episode that you find helpful or perhaps return to during times of stress when you’re caught off guard and with that without further ado please enjoy the obstacle is the way by Ryan holiday control your emotions would you have a great Empire rule over yourself Publius Cirrus when America raised to send the first men into space they trained the astronauts in one skill more than any other the art of not panicking when people panic they make mistakes they override systems they disregard procedures and ignore rules they deviate from the plan they become unresponsive and stop thinking clearly they just react not to what they need to react to but to the survival hormones that are coursing through their veins welcome to the source of most of the problems down here on earth everything is planned down to the letter then something goes wrong and the first thing we do is trade in our plan for a good ol emotional freakout some of us almost crave sounding the alarm because it’s easier than dealing with whatever is staring us in the face at a hundred and fifty miles above Earth in a spaceship smaller than a VW this is death panic is suicide so the panic has to be trained out and it does not go easily before the first launch NASA recreated the fateful day for the astronauts over and over step-by-step hundreds of times from what they’d have for breakfast to the ride to the airfield slowly and graded series of exposures the astronauts were introduced to every sight and sound of the experience of their firing into space they did it so many times that it became as natural and familiar as breathing they’d practice all the way through holding nothing back but the liftoff itself making sure to solve for every variable and remove all uncertainty uncertainty and fear are relieved by Authority training is Authority it’s a release valve with enough exposure you can adapt out those perfectly ordinary even innate fears that are bred mostly from unfamiliarity fortunately unfamiliarity is simple to fix again not easy which makes it possible to increase our tolerance for stress and uncertainty John Glenn the first American astronaut to orbit the earth spent nearly a day in space still keeping this heartrate 100 beats per minute that’s a man not simply sitting at the controls but in control of his emotions a man who had properly cultivated what Tom Wolfe later called the right stuff but you confront a client or a stranger on the street and your heart is liable to burst out of your chest or called on to address a crowd and your stomach crashes through the floor it’s time to realize that this is a luxury and indulgence of our lesser self in space the difference between life and death lies in emotional regulation hitting the wrong button reading the instrument panels incorrectly engaging the sequence too early none of these could have been afforded on a successful Apollo mission the consequences were too great thus the question for astronauts was not how skilled a pilot are you but can you keep an even strain can you fight the urge to panic and instead focus only on what you can change on the task at hand life is really no different obstacles make us emotional but the only way we’ll survive or overcome them is by keeping those emotions in check if we can keep steady no matter what happens no matter how much external events may fluctuate the Greeks had a word for this apatheia it’s the kind of emotional equanimity that comes from the absence of irrational or extreme emotions not the loss of feeling altogether just the loss of the harmful unhelpful kind don’t let the negativity in don’t let those emotions even get started just say no thank you I can’t afford to panic this is the skill that must be cultivated freedom from disturbance and perturbation so you can focus your energy exclusively on solving problems rather than reacting to them a boss is urgent email an asshole in a bar a call from the bank your financing has been pulled a knock at the door there’s been an accident as Gavin de Becker writes in the gift of fear when you worry ask yourself what am i choosing to not see right now what important things are you missing because you chose worry over introspection alertness or wisdom another way of putting it does getting upset provides you with more options sometimes it does but in this instance no I suppose not well then if an emotion can’t change the condition or the situation you’re dealing with it is likely an unhelpful emotion or quite possibly a destructive one but it’s what I feel right no one said anything about not feeling it no one ever said you can’t cry forget manliness if you need to take a moment by all means go ahead real strength lies in the control or as the seem to let put it the domestication of one’s emotions not in pretending they don’t exist so go ahead feel it just don’t lie to yourself by conflating a moding about a problem with dealing with it because they are as different as sleeping and waiting you can always remind yourself I am in control not my emotions I see what is really going on here I am NOT going to get excited or upset we defeat emotions with logic or that’s the idea logic is questions and statements with enough of them we get two root causes which are always easier to deal with we lost money but aren’t losses a pretty common part of business yes are these losses catastrophic not necessarily so this is not totally unexpected is it how could that be so bad why are you all worked up over something that is at least occasionally supposed to happen well I and not only that but you’ve dealt with the worse situations than this wouldn’t you be better off applying some of that resourcefulness rather than anger try having that conversation with yourself and see how these extreme emotions hold up they won’t last long trust that after all you are probably not going to die from any of this it might help to say it over and over again whenever you feel the anxiety begin to come on I’m not going to die from this I’m not going to die from this I am NOT going to die from this or try Marcus’s question does what happened keep you from acting with justice generosity self-control sanity prudence honesty humility for word nests nope then get back to work subconsciously we should be constantly asking ourselves this question do I need to freak out about this and the answer like it is for astronauts for soldiers for doctors and for so many other professionals must be no because I practiced for this situation and I can control myself or no because I caught myself and I’m able to realize that it doesn’t add anything constructive finding the opportunity a good person dies events with his own color and turns whatever happens to his benefit Seneca one of the most intimidating and shocking developments in modern warfare was the German blitzkrieg or lightning war in World War two the Germans wanted to avoid the drawn-out trench fighting of previous Wars so they concentrated mobile divisions into rapid narrow offensive forces that caught their enemies completely unprepared like the tip of a spear columns of Panzer tanks rushed into Poland the Netherlands Belgium and France with devastating results and little opposition in most cases the opposing commander simply surrendered rather than face what felt like an invincible indefatigable monster bearing down on them the blitzkrieg strategy was designed to exploit the flinch of the enemy he must collapse at the site of what appears to be overwhelming force its success depends completely on this response this military strategy works because the set upon troops see the offensive force as an enormous obstacle bearing down on them this is how the Allied opposition viewed the blitzkrieg for most of the war they could see only its power and their own vulnerability to it in the weeks and months after the successful invasion of Normandy by Allied forces they faced it again a set of massive German counter-offensives how could they stop it would it throw them back into the very beaches they just purchased it’s so high a cost a great leader answered that question striding into a conference room at the headquarters in Malta General Dwight D Eisenhower made an announcement he’d have no more of this quivering timidity from his deflated generals the present situation is to be regarded as an opportunity for us and not disaster he commanded there will only be cheerful faces at this conference table in that surgeon counter-offensive Eisenhower was able to see the tactical solution that had been in front of them the entire time that the Nazis strategy carried its own destruction within itself only then when the Allies able to see the opportunity inside the obstacle rather than simply the obstacle that threatened them properly seen as long as the Allies could bend and not break this attacks at more than fifty thousand Germans Russian head first into a net or a meat grinder as Patton eloquently put it the Battle of the Bulge and before that the Battle of the fall as pocket which both were feared to be major reversals and end of the Allies momentum in fact were their greatest triumphs by allowing a forward wedge of the German army through and then attacking from the sides the Allies encircled the enemy completely from the rear the invincible penetrating thrust of the German Panzers wasn’t just impotent but suicidal a textbook example of why you never leave your flanks exposed more important it’s a textbook example of the rule our own perceptions play in the success or failures of those who oppose us it’s one thing to not be overwhelmed by obstacles or discouraged or upset by them this is something that few are able to do but after you have controlled your emotions and you can see objectively and stand steadily the next step becomes possible a mental flip so you’re looking not at the obstacle but if the opportunity within it as Laura Ingalls Wilder put in there is good at everything if only we look for it yet we are so bad at looking we close our eyes to the gift imagine if you’d been in Eisenhower’s shoes with an army racing towards you and you’d seen only impending defeat how much longer would the war have gone on how many more lives lost it’s our preconceptions that are the problem they tell us that things should or need to be a certain way so when they’re not we naturally assume we are at a disadvantage or that we’d be wasting our time to pursue an alternate course when really it’s all fair game and every situation is an opportunity for us to act let’s take a circumstance we’ve all been in having a bad boss all we see is the hell all we see is the thin bearing down on us we flinch but what if you regarded it as an opportunity instead of a disaster if you meet it when you say you’re at the end of your rope and you would rather quit you actually have an opportunity to change and grow and improve yourself a unique opportunity to experiment with different solutions to try different tactics or to take on new projects to add to your skill set you could study this bad boss and learn from him while you fill out your resumes and hit up contacts for a better job elsewhere you could prepare yourself for that job by trying styles of communication or standing up for yourself all with a perfect safety net for yourself quitting and getting out of there with this new attitude and fearlessness who knows you might be able to exact concessions and find that you like the job again one day the boss will make a mistake and then you’ll make your move and outmaneuver him it will feel so much better than the alternative whining bad-mouthing duplicity spinelessness or take that longtime rival at work or that rival company the one who causes endless headaches note the fact that they keep you alert raise the stakes motivate you to prove them wrong harden you help you appreciate your friends provide an instructive answer log the example of who you don’t want to become or that computer glitch that erased all your work you will now be twice as good at it since you will do it again how about that business decision that turned out to be a mistake well you had a hypothesis and it turned out to be wrong why should that upset you it wouldn’t piss off a scientist it would help him maybe don’t bet so much on it next time and now you’ve learned two things that your instinct was wrong and the kind of appetite for risk you really have blessings and burdens are not mutually exclusive it’s a lot more complicated Socrates had a mean nagging wife she always said that being married to her was good practice for philosophy of course you’d want to avoid something negative if you could but what if you were able to remember in the moment the second act that seems to come with the unfortunate situations we try so hard to avoid sports psychologists recently did a study of elite athletes who were struck with some adversity or serious injury initially each reported feeling isolation emotional disruption and doubts about their athletic ability yet afterwards each reported gaining a desire to help others additional perspective and a realization of their own strength in other words every fear doubt they felt during the injury turned into greater abilities in those exact areas it’s a beautiful idea psychologists call it adversarial growth and post-traumatic growth that which doesn’t kill me makes me stronger is not a cliche but fact the struggle against an chuckle inevitably propels the fighter to a new level of functioning the extent of the struggle determines the extent of the growth the obstacle is an advantage not adversity the enemy is any perception that prevents us from seeing this of all the strategies we talked about this is the one you can always use everything can be flipped seen with this kind of gaze a piercing look that ignores the package and sees only the gift or we can fight it the entire way the result is the same the obstacle still exists one just hurts less the benefit is still there below the surface what kind of idiot decides not to take it now the things that other people avoid or flinch away from we’re thankful for when people are rude or disrespectful well that means they underestimate us a huge advantage connivin well we won’t have to apologize when we make an example out of them critical or question our abilities lower expectations are easier to exceed lazy makes whatever we accomplish seem all the more admirable its striking these are perfectly fine starting points better in some cases than whatever you’d have hoped for in the best case scenario what advantaged you derive from someone being polite we’re pulling their punches behind the behaviors that provoke an immediate negative reaction is an opportunity some exposed benefit that we can seize mentally and then act upon so focus on that on the poorly wrapped and initially repulsive present you’ve been handed in every seemingly disadvantageous situation because beneath the packaging is what we need often something of real value a gift of great benefit no one is talking glass half full style platitudes here this is a complete flip seat through the negative past its underside and into its corollary the positive follow the process under the comb the tangle and the straight path are the same Heraclitus coach Nick say doesn’t actually refer to it very often but every one of his assistants and players live by it they say it for him tattooing it at the front of their minds and on every action they take because just two words are responsible for their unprecedented success the process Sabin the head coach of the University of Alabama football team perhaps the most dominant dynasty in the history of college football doesn’t focus on what every other coach focuses on or at least not the way they do he teaches the process the process and his words don’t think about winning the SEC championship don’t think about the national championship think about what you needed to do in this drill on this play in this moment that’s the process let’s think about what we can do today the task at hand chaos of sport as in life process provides us away it says okay you’ve got to do something very difficult don’t focus on that instead break it down into pieces simply do what you need to do right now and do it well and then move on to the next thing follow the process and not the prize the road to back-to-back championships is just that a road and you travel along a road in steps excellence is a matter of steps excelling at this one and then that one and then the one after that Saban’s process is exclusively this existing in the present taking it one step at a time not getting distracted by anything else not the other team not the scoreboard or the crowd the process is about finishing finishing games finishing workouts finishing film sessions finishing drives finishing reps finishing plays finishing blocks finishing the smallest tasks you have right in front of you and finishing it well whether it’s pursuing the pinnacle of success in your field or simply surviving some awful or trying ordeal the same approach works don’t think about the end think about surviving making it from meal the meal break to break checkpoint to checkpoint paycheck-to-paycheck one day at a time and when you really get it right even the hardest things become manageable because the process is relaxed in under its influence we needn’t panic even mammoth tasks become just a series of component parts this was what the great 19th century pioneer of meteorology James Pollard SP had shown to him in a chance encounter as a young man unable to read and write until he was 18 SB attended a rousing speech by the famous orator Henry Clay after the talk the spellbound SB tried to make his way towards Clay but couldn’t form the words to speak to his idol one of his friends shouted out for him he wants to be like you even though he can’t read clay grabbed one of his posters which had the word clay written in big letters he looked at SB and said you see that boy pointing to a letter that’s an A now you’ve only got 25 more letters to go SB had just been gifted the process within a year she started college I know that seems almost too simple but envisioned for a second a master practising an exceedingly difficult craft and making it look effortless there’s no strain no struggle so relaxed no exertion or worry just one clean movement after another that’s a result of the process we can channel this too we needn’t scramble like we’re so often inclined to do when some difficult task sits in front of us remember the first time you saw a complicated algebra equation it was just a jumble of symbols and unknowns but you then stopped took a deep breath and broke it down you isolated the variables solve for them and all that’s left was the answer do that now for whatever obstacles you come across we can take a breath do the immediate composite part in front of us and follow its thread into the next action everything in order everything connected when it comes to our actions disorder and distraction or death the unordered mind loses track of what’s in front of it what matters and gets distracted by thoughts of the future the processes order it keeps our perceptions in check and our actions in sync it seems obvious but we forget this when it matters most right now if I knocked you down and pinned you to the ground how would you respond you’d probably panic and then you’d push with all your strength to get me off you it wouldn’t work just using my bodyweight I would be able to keep your shoulders against the ground with little effort and you’d grow exhausted fighting it that’s the opposite of the process there’s a much easier way first you don’t panic you conserve your energy you don’t do anything stupid like get yourself choked out by acting without thinking you focus on not letting it get worse then you get your arms up to brace and create some breathing room some space now work to get to your side from there you can start to break down my hold on you grab an arm trap a leg buck with your hips and slide in a knee and push away it’ll take some time but you’ll get yourself out at each step the person on top is forced to give a little up till there’s nothing left then you’re free thanks to the process being trapped is just a position not a faith you get out of it by addressing and eliminating each part of that position through small deliberate action not by trying and failing to push it away with superhuman strength with our business rivals we wrap our brains that think of some mind-blowing new product that will make them all irrelevant and in the process we take our eye off the ball we shy away from writing a book or making a film even though it’s our dream because it’s so much work we can’t imagine how to get from here to there how often do we compromise or settle because we feel that the real solution is too ambitious or outside our grasp how often do we assume that change is impossible because it’s too big involves too many different groups or worse how many people are paralyzed by all their ideas and inspirations they chase them all and go nowhere distracting themselves and never making headway they’re brilliant sure but they rarely execute they rarely get where they want and need to go all of these issues are solvable each would collapse beneath the process we’ve just wrongly assumed that it all has to happen at once and we give up at the thought of it we are a twosie thinkers fretting about a obsessing over Z yet forgetting all about B through what we want to have goals yes so everything we do can be in service of something purposeful when we know what we are really setting out to do the obstacles that arise tend to seem smaller and more manageable when we don’t each one looms larger and seems impossible goals help us put the blips and bumps in their proper proportion when we get distracted when we start caring about something other than our own progress and efforts the process is the helpful if occasionally bossy voice in our head it is the bark of the wise older leader who knows exactly who he is and what he’s got to do shut up go back to your stations try to think about what we are going to do ourselves instead of worrying about what’s going on out there you know what your job is stop John and get to work the process is the voice that demands we take responsibility and ownership that prompts us to act even if only in a small way like a relentless machine subjugating resistance each and every way it exists little by little moving forward one step at a time subordinate strength to the process replace fear with the process depend on it lean on it trust in it take your time don’t rush some problems are harder than others deal with the ones right in front of you first come back to the others later you’ll get there the process is about doing the right things right now not worrying about what might happen later or the results or the whole picture love everything that happens amor fati by formula for greatness and a human being is a more fatty that one wants nothing to be different not forward not backward not in all eternity not merely bear what is necessary still less conceal it but love it Nietzsche at age 67 Thomas Edison returned home early one evening from another day at the laboratory shortly after dinner a man came rushing into his house with urgent news a fire had broken out at Edison’s research and production campus a few miles away fire engines from the eight nearby towns rushed to the scene but they could not contain the blaze fueled by the strange chemicals in the various buildings green and yellow flames shot up six and seven stories threatening to destroy the entire empire Edison had spent his life building Edison calmly but quickly made his way to the fire through the now hundreds of onlookers and devastated employees looking for his son go get your mother and all her friends he told his son with childlike excitement they’ll never see a fire like this again what don’t worry Edison calmed him it’s all right we’ve just got rid of a lot of rubbish that’s a pretty amazing reaction but when you think about it there really was no other response what should a dicent have done wet gotten angry quit and gone home what exactly would that have accomplished you know the answer now it’s nothing so we didn’t waste time indulging himself to do great things we need to be able to endure tragedy and setbacks we’ve got to love what we do and all that it entails good and bad we have to learn to find joy in every single thing that happens because there was a little more than rubbish in Edison’s buildings years and years of priceless records prototypes and research were turned to ash the buildings which had been made of what was supposedly fireproof concrete had been insured for only a fraction of their worth thinking that they were immune to such disasters Edison and his investors were covered for about a third of the damage still Edison wasn’t heartbroken not as he could’ve and probably should have been instead it all invigorated him as he told a reporter the next day he wasn’t too old to make a fresh start I’ve been through a lot of things like this he said it prevents a man from being afflicted with unweave within about three weeks the factory was partially back up and running within a month its men were working two shifts a day churning out new products of the world had never seen despite a loss of almost 1 million dollars more than 23 million in today’s dollars and it’s inward Marshall enough energy to make nearly 10 million dollars in revenue that year two hundred plus million dollars today he not only suffered a spectacular disaster but he recovered and replied to it spectacularly the next step after we discard our expectations and accept what happens to us after understanding that certain things particularly bad things are outside our control is this loving whatever happens to us and facing it with unfailing cheerfulness it is the act of turning what we must do into what we get to do we put our energies and emotions and exertions where they will have real impact this is that place we will tell ourselves this is what I’ve got to do or put up with well I might as well be happy about it here’s an image to consider the great boxer Jack Johnson and his famous 15 round brawl with Jim Jefferies Jefferies the great white hope called out of retirement like some deranged Cincinnatus to defeat the ascendant black champion and Johnson genuinely hated by his opponent in the crowd still enjoying every minute of it smiling joking playing the whole fight why not there’s no value in any other reaction should he hate them for hating him bitterness was their burden and Johnson refused to pick it up not that he simply took the abuse instead Johnson designed his fight plan around it at every nasty remark from Geoffrey’s corner he his opponent another lesen at every low trick or rush from Jeffries Johnson would quip and beat it back but never lose his cool and when one well-placed blow opened the cut on Johnson’s lip he kept smiling a gory bloody but nevertheless cheerful smile every round he got happier friendlier as his opponent grew enraged tired eventually losing the will to fight in your worst moments picture Johnson always calm always in control genuinely loving the opportunity to prove himself to perform for people whether they wanted him to succeed or not each remark bringing the response it deserved and no more letting the opponent dig his own grave until the fight ended with Jeffries on the floor and every doubt about Johnson silenced as Jack London the famous novelist reported from the inside seats no one understands him this man who smiles while the story of the fight is the story of a smile if ever a man won by nothing more fatiguing than a smile Johnson won today that man is us or rather it can be us if we strive to become like him for we’re in our own fight with our own obstacles and we can wear them down with our relentless smile frustrating the people or impediments attempting to frustrate us we can be Edison or Factory on fire not by moaning our fade but enjoying the spectacular scene and then starting the recovery effort the very next day roaring back soon enough your obstacle may not be so serious or violent but they are nevertheless significant and outside your control they warrant only one response a smile as the Stoics commanded themselves cheerfulness in all situations especially the bad ones who knows where edison and johnson learned this epigram but they clearly did learning not to kick and scream about matters we can’t control is one thing indifference and acceptance are certainly better than disappointment or rage very few understand or practice that art but it is only a first step better than all of that is love for all that happens to us for every situation the goal is not I’m okay with this knot I think I feel good about this but I feel great about it because if it happened then it was meant to happen and I am glad that it did when it did I am meant to make the best of it and proceed to do exactly that we don’t get to choose what happens to us but we can always choose how we feel about it and why on earth would you choose to feel anything but good we can choose to render a good account of ourselves if the event must occur amor fati a love of fate is the response don’t waste a second looking back at your expectations face forward and face it with a smug little grin it’s important to look at Johnson and Edison because they weren’t passive they didn’t simply roll over and tolerate adversity they accepted what happened to them they liked it it’s a little unnatural I know to feel gratitude for things we never wanted to happen in the first place but we know at this point the opportunities and benefits that lay within adversities we know that and overcoming them we emerged stronger sharper empowered there’s little reason to delay these feelings to boo grudgingly acknowledged later that it was for the best when we could have felt that in advance because it was inevitable you love it because it’s all fuel and you don’t just want fuel you need it you can’t go anywhere without it no one or no thing can so you’re grateful for it that is not to say that the good will always outweigh the bad or that it comes free and without cost but there is always some good even if only barely perceptible at first contained within the bad and we can find it and be cheerful because of it hey guys this is Tim again just a few more things before you take off number one this is five bullet Friday do you want to get a short email from me would you enjoy getting a short email from me every Friday and that provides a little morsel of fun before the weekend and five bullet Friday is a very short email where I share the coolest things I’ve found or that I’ve been pondering over the week that could include favorite new albums that I’ve discovered it could include gizmos and gadgets and all sorts of weird that I’ve somehow dug up in the the world of the esoteric as I do it could include favorite articles that I have read and that I’ve shared with my close friends for instance and it’s very short it’s just a little tiny bite of goodness before you head off for the weekend so if you want to receive that check it out just go to 4-hour workweek dot-com that’s 4-hour workweek com all spelled out and just drop in your email and you will get the very next one and if you sign up I hope you enjoy it this episode is brought to you by cheater I am so thrilled to have connected with these guys because I’ve used Titor products for many many years I’ve traveled around the country and the world with Titor products and I’m sitting about 15 feet in my home from one of their inversion tables and we’re gonna talk more about all of that one of my rituals is hanging and I should save not only that it’s a maintenance and performance program I hang not just in the morning potentially but particularly after a day of bearing weight whether that includes weight training in Jersey Greg rec world record holder insists on this type of inversion therapy after training or just wearing heavy backpack around a few minutes goes a long way towards better sleep in my case less back pain neck pain leg pain it’s not a panacea obviously but inversion therapy would uses gravity and your own bodyweight decompress the spine and weave on the disks and surrounding nerves seems to help with a whole slew of conditions and just as a general maintenance program it’s one of my favorite things to do so what to say about that Peter why Teeter Teeter is the best known name in inversion table since 1981 more than three million people have put their trust in Teeter Teeter is also the only inversion table brand that has been both safety certified by Underwriters Laboratories at the UL few people in that industry will recognize it and registered with the FDA as a class 1 medical device and they’re giving a very special offer just to you guys my listeners for a limited time you can get the teeter inversion table with bonus accessories which I have a bunch of again in the room next to me and a free pair of gravity boots so that you can invert at home or take the boots with you to the gym so these gravity boots I have three separate pairs of gravity boots bought with my own money in three 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